So This Happened Unexpectedly

This cycle was my first full cycle since I stopped breastfeeding the 18 month old.  I had started taking metformin midcycle because I could tell I was having some insulin resistance issues – I had gained 15 pounds since the start of the year, I was getting hormonal acne, and my ovaries were killing me probably from cysts.

Again, like last time, after fertilization I noticed I was unusually itchy.  I thought I was developing some food intolerances and took Benadryl for several days.  Metformin and Benadryl appear to be my personal fertility drugs because we are 4 weeks and 5 days pregnant with #3.



I’m treating it with some caution because of the previous miscarriages and the really late ovulation perhaps impacting egg quality.

Airplanes and Diono Radian RXT

We got a second convertible car seat a few months ago, a Diono Radian RXT, because I knew we’d be doing a lot of plane travel and that my Britax Marathon Clicktight was not going to be an easy seat to take a long.

Some start details:  We buy a separate seat for our 1 year old and always have.  I’m not a sanctimommy and do it for only the reason that attempting to hold him for more than 5 minutes in a seated position has always been near impossible, even as a small infant.

We’ve taken 8 separate flights in the last 2 months, half on my own with the kids and half with the Dane helping.  I’ll try and give you some idea of what to expect with this seat and traveling as I looked for information before flying and couldn’t find that much.

737: Our first 4 trips were all in a 737 and were international flights.  First 737, I tried to rear face the Diono without a seat belt extender or angle adjuster and managed to get the seat belt stuck and poke the seat in front of us with the car seat.  Guy in front was not happy and I couldn’t move the seat.  Toddler was happy and slept, though.  The Dane ended up having to detach the seat belt near the base in order to free it.  Once we freed it, I asked for a seat belt extender but our Icelandic stewardesses gave me a weird infant in lap belt that just didn’t work.  Good thing that you don’t need one to forward face.   Next 3 trips, all forward facing without any issue.

With my husband, I folded down the Diono each time before back carrying it and had him hold the baby during this and install.  This ended up not being necessary when I flew by myself with the kids and I just left it in the open position to back carry, front carried the 25 lb toddler and put him down in an empty seat whilst I installed the Diono.

CRJ-200:  You can rear face on a CRJ 200 with an angle adjuster and taking the boot off and popping out the little section in front that gives it less recline.  I know you aren’t supposed to do that in a car, but desperation in an airplane will make you think about this.  Even though the Radian was not touching the seat in front, I was made to forward face by a stewardess on a Sky West flight because the guy couldn’t full recline in front of me.  MMK, guess you want the baby to be a grump instead lady.   Good thing is that the older CRJ-200s have enough pitch that the toddler was not able to kick the seat in front.

MD-88 and CRJ-900:  AKA sardine can planes.  We sat in regular coach near the back and in the back row on these planes.  I made the mistake of forward facing on the MD-88 and in order to prevent kicking of the seat in front by holding down legs angered an already grumpy toddler who proceeded to scream for an hour straight.    Avoid that at all costs.   I did manage a good rear face with the help of an amazing flight attendant on a Delta CRJ-900, again with the boot removed and with an angle adjuster and with a self purchased self belt extender.  I had to hold the straps for a while to prevent the kicking off on the toddler’s seat from jutting the car seat into the next one ahead of him.  There was less than an inch clearance.

I find carrying the Diono Radian RXT on my back to be no big deal, even with a kid on the front as well.  However, my husband complained it was uncomfortable and I heard other parents in the airport say that they had the seat and found it too difficult to carry and travel with.    I used straps left over from my husband’s tool bag that are similar to the Diono straps but more heavy duty.


On Trying Again

The Little Dane is going to be a year old soon (how the heck did that happen?) and finally at about 11 months into breastfeeding, my fertility has maybe returned.  I was hoping that by this point I’d be about 12 lbs lighter than I am now as a good starting point to trying for another kid, although I am smaller than I was pre-pregnancy, but I’m going to be 30 years old in less than a year and the clock is ticking away for more kids.

It is a weird position to be in having had secondary infertility and then going back to try for another.  Will it take us 2 or 3 years this time?  How many miscarriages will there be along the way?    Can I do this without metformin?

I think of the logistics of it this summer with traveling back to Scandinavia and then to New England and what that looks like if I were early in a pregnancy – I am kind of hoping that I don’t get pregnant for a while yet, but don’t really have the luxury of putting it off.  It must be easy to be able to just decide when would be a convenient time to get pregnant.

Some other things that whirl around in my mind about this are that I’m still not freaking done with my degree.  Not done after starting at 17, not done 12 years later.  Soon I’m going to have spent more years of my life in university rather than not which is just ridiculous.  There is no reliable or available daycare for the fall semester and I just can’t even begin to fathom the thought of putting a child we tried so hard for in the hands of someone who is not beyond amazing.  Spoiler alert:  no one is amazing enough.  Hand in hand with that is a feeling of guilt that I place all this financial burden on my husband for the two kids we have now and maybe the one or two more.  Sometimes I think he would have a better life with a working wife, or rather a Danish wife, who’d be content with two kids and had a career.  He must have gotten the short straw.


Notarizing Paperwork in Denmark and Other Oddities

Danish people don’t really have notaries and I’m not sure why, but it just is.  In order to do something estate related I need some paperwork notarized.  Now I have two options here: travel to the British or American Embassy in Copenhagen (which will cost a lot and is about a 3 hour train ride one way) or go to the city court and book a notary appointment (which is bizarre because it only take 30 seconds).

Package delivery is interesting.  Some times they attempt to deliver and other times they might not, sort of depends on the mood of the mailman.  Why is this bothersome might you ask?  Well, they only ‘attempt’ delivery once and if they miss you (or pretend to miss you) you must pick up the package at the post office.  Ok, still not so bad, right?  Well, in a spread out somewhat hilly city with not a lot of cars it is more difficult.  Also, if you live in an apartment building in which the mailman who delivers packages (who is different than the mailman on the bicycle who delivers normal mail) does not have a key to the mail area, you must wait for them to mail you a package slip.

100 Items Sewn in 2016 Challenge – January

I’ve been doing, albeit with some difficulty, the 100 items sewn in 2016 challenge.  Being in school and having a baby at home makes this a hard thing to do.  I love making clothes for me, especially because I can make them with a nursing options so I can discreetly pull it up to feed the baby (who at almost 9 months refuses bottles).  It is also great because with the Little Dane’s long torso and cloth diapers, store bought clothes don’t tend to fit.


These are some of the other things recently for the kiddos.

The Little Dane is Healthy, Happy, and Huge!

After a long struggle to get pregnant and the Little Dane’s NICU stint, I think I needed time to process things.  I keep wanting to write about the NICU thing, but honestly, I just can’t because it was pretty upsetting and I am kind of pissed at our initial delivery hospital still.

Anyway, at his 6 month appointment, the Little Dane was 29 inches long and 20.25 lbs.  For those of you not in America, Liberia, or Burma that would be 73.7 cm and 9.18 kg.  Yes, I am aware that is tall, but the Dane is 6’6″, so expected.  Here he is at 5 months old in a picture taken by my other Little (or not so little at 4’3″ anymore) One:


Before and After – Bathroom


Above you can see the before of our very poorly done bathroom with way too large vanity, vinyl floors, incorrectly done shower surround, and that is non-original trim and again very poorly stained doors (before anyone freaks out over them being painted – they had been painted before).

And the after with tile floor, smaller vanity, tiled shower surround, etc.  :

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